I don't know you AT ALL, but your suggestion that Gosling's "attitude" isn't productive strikes me as one that comes from a place of profound privilege and blindness. If her actions are good and useful --which they ARE--WHO CARES what her attitude is? Isn't this journal EXACTLY her forum to express her feelings, whatever they are? Why would you even bother to criticize those feelings? Why would you think it is your place to do so? (And yes, I went and read your post and while I personally disagree with your attitude, because I think that it's a good deal MORE productive to expect the best of people than to expect the worst of them, my problem here is with you apparently trying to police Gosling's speech, not your own opinions. (Furthermore, the UCSB shooting which spurred this hashtag was an act committed by a man with an incredible amount of privilege, so your argument about the class-basis of this doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me.))
As a woman in this culture Gosling is profoundly effected by misogyny Every. Single. Day. And most of the time she, like most of us, doesn't even let that rage and frustration and pain surface, she just goes along working hard to be a good person. You telling her that her attitude is not productive is a form of silencing her speech and her experiences and it sucks.